Parents are at the center of their children’s development. They share both physiological and mental traits with their children. From early childhood, children begin forming social relationships and facing emotional challenges. They explore friendship, share feelings, interact, and develop social skills. But families are always the first “school” their children come into contact with. Parents play a key role in shaping their children's social circle and guiding them in understanding what is morally right and wrong. But does this really mean they should have full control over their children's lives?

Doubts and curiosities arise in a child's mind from a young age. However, interests, thoughts, and hobbies may change depending on the time and environment they grow up in. So, parents and children may not always share common interests and ideas. Despite such differences, parents are an inseparable aspect in the life of a child that grows more curious with every passing day. And as the saying goes, “curiosity killed the cat.” Many children may go off track and get involved in harmful or illegal activities. So, to ensure a bright future, is it really necessary for parents to control every aspect and possibility of their children’s lives?

Our parents always aim for us to be good and successful people, but sometimes they may get carried away in the process. In most cases, parents should be allowed to have a glimpse into their children’s lives. However, overprotection is a serious concern. Controlling and confining children at home, running background checks on everyone they meet—these are actions that can damage a child’s social life and confidence. As Mireille Joussemet, Renée Landry, and Richard Koestner put it, “controlling parenting is characteristic of parents who pressure their children to think, behave, or feel in particular ways” (224). Children raised in such conditions will no doubt have difficulty in shaping their identities and building their confidence. Instead, parents should help children understand what to do and what not to do, where to go, who to trust, and who to avoid. But that doesn’t mean complete control over every part of their children’s lives. Personal life, possessions, beliefs—these are areas where parents should respect their children's space.

Emotional instability is common in both parents and children. If a child is rude or rebellious, that doesn't mean the parent should respond with equal harshness. A simple pep talk and some encouragement can often be enough. Physical violence is still used by many parents as a way to teach—but is it really effective? Does it truly help children succeed? Just imagine the scars, the wounds, the pain a child endures just to earn their parents’ approval. These scars remain as reminders of hurt and resentment. It's time for parents to adopt better, more respectful ways to teach and communicate with their children.

In this scientific and progressive era, parenting methods must evolve. Parents should have a set of clear rules based on the child’s age. Enforcing strict rules for young children—like limiting sugar or holding their hand while crossing the road—is necessary. But teenagers need a sense of freedom and trust. There should be a well-managed and supportive environment that helps them develop their thinking and decision-making skills. This way, younger kids stay safe while teens get to enjoy life and grow. In the 21st century, many parents are now adopting the scaffolding method, helping children learn better and build a brighter future.

In essence, parents should guide and support their children, but also encourage independence, autonomy, and self-regulation. Finding the right balance between control and freedom is crucial for a child's healthy development.

References

Joussemet, Mireille, Renée Landry, and Richard Koestner. “A Self-Determination Theory Perspective on Parenting.” Canadian Psychology, vol. 49, no. 3, 2008, pp. 194–200. APA PsycNet, https://doi.org/10.1037/a0012754.